The importance of Self-Connection

I’m sharing quite a bit about my own recovery from chronic fatigue on my insta at the moment, and how I learned all about the importance of self-connection as a foundation for health. This was mirrored too in my client’s journeys.

So many of us, are utterly disconnected from ourselves, although I believe that the “Self-Connection” phenomenon as I call it, exists along a spectrum or continuum. There are those who don’t know they have a self to be connected to, all the way along the continuum to those who would never lose their self-connection in a million years. Most of us fall somewhere along the continuum and we vascillate depending on our stage in life/growth/development.

My professional research and experience, and my personal recovery experience leads me to believe that without a strong anchor to ourselves, we run the risk of living from “the outside in.” This means that we run around responding to all those needs and demands of others outside of ourselves, often at the expense of our own personal needs. And because we’re so busy and we feel good supporting those around us, it can take a while for us to notice how much our lack of self-connection is costing us. But I promise you, that it really does cost us. Because when you’re saying yes to all those other people, you’re saying no to yourself. And when you do that you erode your own sense of self-trust and connection. And yes, socialisation and gender norms do play a part, with more women suffering than men in this space.

But there is a solution!

When you learn to live life “from the inside out”, when understanding of your own needs is your starting point, then great things happen. It’s not that you don’t continue to support and work with those outside of yourself, of course you can still do that. The difference is though that you no longer do it at the expense of yourself.

I’ve worked with countless industry Leaders and people in the community who have revolutionised their lives and their organisations, just from making this one small change to their daily lives.

How to self-connect? Try a daily challenge of making yourself one small promise every day. Put a pebble in a jar when you meet that promise and take it out, when you break the promise. Over time, watch your self-connection and self-trust grow. Notice where you feel this in your body. Notice your relationships transform around you.

If you’d like to hear more about this topic then please get in touch. I regularly give talks and workshops and work with clients 1:1 and 1:team.

I’d love to hear other ways that you have strengthened your self-connection and the results you garnered. Get in touch! leisha@leisharedmondmcgrath.com